We still crave connection and companionship as we grow older. Many older adults become newly single or decide that now is the time to find a mate.
It’s never too late to start a new relationship, whether you’re divorced, widowed, or have been single for a long time.
How do I know I’m ready to start dating?
It’s natural to feel lonely, especially if you’ve just lost a spouse or decided to split up. You may find yourself with more free time and wish to share it with someone, or you may miss having physical contact.
However, meeting someone new can be intimidating, especially if you’ve been in a long-term relationship or have been single for a long time.
Moving on from a previous relationship
If you’re newly single, accepting the loss of your prior relationship may be difficult. Everyone reacts to the end of a relationship differently, but it’s critical to give yourself time and support to process your emotions.
Coping with the loss of a partner
If you’ve recently lost a loved one, you may need to give yourself some time to adjust. For more advice on coping with loss, see our bereavement pages.
Where can I meet new people?
When you’re ready to consider a new relationship, you might be unsure where to start.
Some of the suggestions for meeting people listed below will not be possible at this time. They are, nonetheless, still relevant for when we are able to reconnect with people. For the time being, the information about joining up for online dating services or apps provided below may be more relevant.
You can rest assured that there are numerous ways for you to meet someone. Trying new hobbies or volunteering is a terrific opportunity to meet new people, gain new skills, and have a good time.
You could join:
- a walking group
- a local choir
- a course to learn something new
- a book group.
If you aren’t sure what activities are in your area, there are a number of ways you can find this information:
- read the notice boards in your local library, GP surgery, town hall or place of worship.
- take a look in your local paper for listings of activities and local groups.
- check out the adult courses offered by your local council, often they’ll have brochures advertising the different courses – sometimes these may be subsidised or free for older people.
- find volunteering opportunities at your local volunteer Centre.
If you don’t feel like these options are for you, you could try:
- meeting people through mutual friends
- signing up for online dating
- placing a personal ad in a local newspaper
Many local newspapers feature a personal advertisements section (sometimes known as “lonely hearts” or “would like to meet”) where you may write a brief description of yourself and the type of person you want to meet. People can then contact you if they want to communicate with you. Because your personal contact information isn’t included in the ad, you’re protected, and you can select who you respond to if someone contact you.
Don’t put yourself under too much pressure to meet someone right immediately. It won’t happen quickly, but staying active and optimistic can help you enjoy this period of your life.