Do you believe you’re too unattractive to date online? You’re not the only one who feels this way.
Many of the men who make meetings with me remark that they are too ugly to use dating apps. Try to figure out what you and they have in common. You’re all completely wrong. The majority of my customers’ worries have dissipated by the time I’m finished with them. Within a week, they’re sending me joyful messages about how they’re finally receiving matches after a long time, and a week after that, they’re writing me a testimonial. Still don’t believe me?
After our last session, I’ve never had a client contact me to complain about a lack of results or to submit a negative review. Is it true that I’m a magical unicorn princess who can solve problems with a flick of my wand and a flip of my hair? Of course, I am, but I also provide useful advise. The truth is that if you know how to utilize dating apps, they can work for 99 percent of people. You’ll be there in no time with a little effort (and some excellent coaching).
Surprisingly, almost all of that effort requires you to be completely honest with yourself. As someone who advises with dissatisfied daters for a living, I can tell you that your issue is most likely one of the following:
1. The first one is the big one! UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS.
I’ll be honest: if you’re a balding 40-year-old man, you probably won’t get along with a svelte college freshman, but you might get along with a 40-year-old yoga instructor. You won’t be able to match with a Sports Illustrated model if you’re 50 pounds overweight, but you can match with an attractive lady. Is she going to be overweight? Perhaps, but then again, so are you, guy. If you’re a white man living in a small Vermont town and you’re solely interested in Japanese women, what are you thinking? Keep your expectations in check! You can find a lady who will make you happy while also fucking you like the filthy, filthy rock-star that you are. I’m not condemning you for being drawn to beautiful ladies… When they see a hottie, everyone takes a double-take. I’m only (gently) advising you not to put all your eggs in her ridiculously heated basket.
2. Your photos are unattractive.
It’s important to note that I mentioned your PHOTOS are unattractive, not that you are. Don’t be dramatic; simply improve your photography. If you’re looking for some ideas, take a look at the past blogs regarding images here and here.
3. A bad bio.
A corny joke, your life narrative, a list of requirements for your perfect girl, douchey bragging, or a bitch-fest about how much you despise online dating won’t pique her interest. Take a look at my earlier blog about bios here if you need some assistance.
4. You live in a rural area.
I understand how bad this one is. I grew up in a tiny town, so I understand how difficult it can be to find work. Change your zip code to the nearest reasonably big town. If you’re in Kansas, don’t lie and say you’re from New York City; however, it’s fine to use the zip code of a nearby town as long as you’re honest about where you reside and willing to do the majority of the traveling.
Do yourself a favor the next time you’re having a pity party because you’re too ugly for online dating. Examine your profile carefully to ensure that you’re putting your best foot forward, and make any necessary changes. On dating apps, you’re almost probably not too ugly to find love, sex, or companionship.